Category Archives: Love & Relationships

Relationship Success Tip: Talk with Her

Posted on by Kenway Du
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This one is pretty much a no-brainer, but communication is obviously one of the most important factors to breed a successful relationship.

I’ve dated my girlfriend for almost four years now, and after all this time, we sometimes forget to have conversations about us.
It’s important to have these dialogues, however, to make sure both of you are on the same page with how things are going. Because after such a long time together, couples can tend to travel in different directions with each other without even knowing. Not to say that it always happens and that it’s detrimental to your relationship, but it can be a threat and is something you want to address.

Just make sure it doesn’t turn into an argument.

Talk with her.

The Lessons from a Two Year Relationship

Posted on by Kenway Du
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A little over a month ago (Jan 11, sorry for the punctuality again), Vanny and I celebrated our 2-year anniversary. So I wanted to share the news with you guys if you didn’t already know and use this milestone to tell you some important things I’ve learned about relationships. Although I could ramble on, I’ll do my best to keep it short.


1) There is no such thing as the 6-month mushy phase

Many people believe that after the 6-month mark, the mushy phase (the phase of utter infatuation) will pass and the real test begins. In my opinion, the fact that people keep bringing up the infamous 6-month mark pressures people into thinking critically about their relationship and deciding whether to end it or not. The same thing happens at 3 years supposedly. But to be honest, there are certain things in life where thinking critically is second to your emotions. So if the relationship feels right, do not let an artificial timeline pressure you into making important decisions.

2) There is no such thing as an easy relationship that’s worthwhile

Everyone in this world is unique, even identical twins. So if you think about it, relationships are bound to have differences that test your understanding, your loyalty, your commitment, etc. In fact, the more you love and care for someone, the more you want to be involved in their life and this increases the chance of friction. It the relationship doesn’t have friction at one point or another, that’s when you should question whether or not you two care enough about each other. Relationships truly become grounded when you are able and willing to work through the hard times with communication, understanding, and trust.


3) Don’t worry about the world

At the end of the day, heaven and hell (I don’t mean the religious afterlife) starts with you and your partner. The world adds complex dynamics that can definitely affect your relationship, but it’s the two of you that will decide to fight on or move on. The world will always be there, so get used to its constant presence and shift your focus onto what’s important.

With that being said, Vanny and I are happy about where our relationship is and are excited to see many more anniversaries to come.

Happy Valentine’s Day people.